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Insights on the Montessori method and Early Childhood Education from Dr. Kathy Roemer

Ten Reasons to Choose Montessori Education

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  1. It has been a successful education model for over 100 years. The first Montessori children’s house was started in 1907 and the philosophy has spread to all continents and translated into many languages. Montessori is an international method of teaching and learning.
  2. Montessori is a philosophy meant for life. By promoting independence at a young age, children have the freedom to choose and develop into lifelong learners.
  3. There is a focus on learner outcomes including executive function skills such as: working memory, planning, sequencing, delayed gratification, grit, organizing and other capabilities that enable a person to engage successfully in independent, purposive, self-serving behavior.
  4. There are beautiful, thoughtful, educational manipulative materials. Children learn through their senses first, and then with their hands and minds. Materials and lessons progress from the concrete to the abstract.
  5. Students are encouraged to focus on peace within themselves, with each other, in the classrooms, and in the world at large. When conflicts happen, children learn to process them and are able to problem solve by using appropriate verbal skills.
  6. The lessons in Practical Life allow children to do daily chores and learn to take care of themselves and their belongings. This produces long-lasting confidence.
  7. The global awareness and cosmic curriculum exposes children to the universe, community and their place in the world.
  8. Curiosity is encouraged and children learn to ask hard questions. They are encouraged to find their own answers and teachers and students often learn together. Children are joyful in Montessori education classrooms
  9. Children learn individually at their own pace in a non-competitive environment and are celebrated for who they are and what they have achieved.
  10. Parents are the child’s primary teachers. Montessori provides encouragement for the families to build systems based on respect, courtesy, and mutual responsibilities.

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Time: The Most Valuable Gift

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Do you know anyone who over-commits his/her time and energy? Sure you do. I just have to look in the mirror! Can you remember how we organized our time before we had cell phones, laptops and iPads? Actually, some of you were born after all of these devices became our life organizers! Being busy has become a status symbol. On top of that, your child will be out of school for two weeks and your daily routines are about to change. For some, that also means the added stress of holidays thrown into the mixture. The decorations have been in the stores for months reminding us of all of the things we have to do to create the perfect holiday experiences for family and friends. It is hard to determine what is important. And yet it is important to share traditions that are your childhood roots of adult happiness.

We could write a book about our experiences with our children and holidays. What is expected to be an exciting visit with extended family and might include shopping and gift giving often has unexpected results. Our children often behave out of character and the adults wind up exhausted or suffering from migraines that can last from now until the children return back to school on January 4th. Instead of trying to please everyone – including your children, now is the time to evaluate what worked last year and what you might consider changing. How can you maintain a schedule that is as close to normal as possible? How can you take care of yourself, your family and have fun?

A while ago I read an article written for Wired online, by Jonathan Liu, a self-described stay-at-home dad, Etch-a-Sketch artist, community agitator, board game geek and a voracious reader. Doesn’t he sound like a person you would like to get to know, one that would be fun at a party? He sounds like a great Montessori Dad! Jonathan shared his insights about the five best toys for children knowing that many are of us are on a tight budget. These toys are time tested, and appeal to children within a wide range of ages.


Two Montessori children with homemade space equipment. Hours of fun!

Two Montessori children with homemade space equipment. Hours of fun!

The 5 Best Toys

# 1.  A Stick, comes in various sizes, grows on trees, and yes – could poke an eye out

# 2.  A Box, comes in a variety of sizes and shapes, can be converted into anything from a playhouse to robots, store or time machine (I’ve been watching Dr. Who!)

#3.  String, comes in various textures and lengths, use to hang things, tie things together, Cat’s Cradle, heavier kinds for jumping, climbing, swinging.  My son’s favorite was to create “power lines” from every attachable high and low surface in the living room that objects would traverse across and down.

#4.  Cardboard Tubes, free with paper towels, wrapping paper, or super sized from a carpet, used as a telescope, binoculars, whacker, although may not hold up to enthusiastic play so you need extras.

#5.  Dirt, been around a long time, you have to eat a peck of it before you die, may help build immune systems, great for digging, piling, burying things, mud pies, facials, etc.

To Jonathan’s list I would like to add The Greatest Gift:

#6. Time, most precious, not always free, must be uninterrupted, in the moment, spent genuinely with children.

Children require both quantity and quality time with parents; time when we are not looking at the Internet, talking on the phone or watching TV (although with older children, watching shows together and discussing issues is a great way to stay in touch with one another). Time to stay at home in our PJ’s building forts with blankets over tables and using all the pillows. Time to cook, bake and be silly. Time to walk or ride bikes in the park with no destination in mind.  Time to do crazy dress up and dance to oldies – yours and theirs. Time to sing together, play board games, play hide and seek, and create art projects.

After all, the most valuable gift to your child is YOU– your time and undivided attention. Everything else is just the trimmings.

“Lost, yesterday, somewhere between sunrise and sunset, two golden hours, each set with sixty diamond minutes. No reward is offered, for they are gone forever.”— Horace Mann


 *This post was originally published on December 16, 2015


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A Match Made in Montessori

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In continuation of my series interviewing our teachers, I would like to introduce Elizabeth Powell. Elizabeth is one of our early childhood teachers at our Twin Parks Riverside Campus. Read on to learn more about Elizabeth.

In Elizabeth’s own words:

I was born and raised in Scotch Plains, New Jersey and up until just last week this was my parents’ home, until they moved.  I am the middle child, I have an older brother and younger sister. I spent all of my schooling and extracurricular in that town until I went to college.

For my undergraduate degree, I studied at Misericordia University, formally known as College Misericordia in Dallas, Pennsylvania. I graduated in December 2004 with a Bachelor’s degree in Professional Studies.

In July 2007, I graduated from Christopher Academy Teacher Education Program with my 2 1/2-6 training from the American Montessori Society.

My graduate studies were done at Chaminade University in Honolulu, Hawaii, I graduated in December 2008. I graduated with a Masters of Education specific to Montessori Education. In July 2015, I graduated from Princeton Montessori School’s Leadership Course.

I often feel like I have been in school for my entire life, which is probably why I love being a teacher so much. I remember growing up and always playing teacher with my friends when we had our play dates. Now being a teacher myself, I can see that everything my mom did for us growing up and preparing us for life was always the Montessori way.  She prepared our environment and we thrived.

I met my husband in Jersey City at the Montessori school where we both were teaching in 2011. We just got married in August, 2016, and we live in Jersey City with our pit bull, Blade. In our free time, you will find us volunteering for various organizations such as Liberty Humane Society and Rett Syndrome, Girl Power 2 Cure.

Elizabeth and Brendan

Elizabeth and Brendan

What influenced you to become a Montessori teacher?

My mom was a Montessori teacher and I remember going with her when I was little to take her classes. I also got to go to school sometimes in her classroom after I was done at my school, so I was able to see her teaching and working with her students. I remember my mom bringing home the tying frame so that I could learn how to tie my own shoes.

Who were your childhood heroes?

Definitely my big brother, he was always there to make sure I was safe, except for the time I had to get stitches when we were home alone and did not listen to the rules my parents left for us.

Who do you consider your role models?

My parents, they have just entered retirement and they are happy and healthy. They raised my brother, my sister and I and a lot of our successes can be attributed to what they did for us growing up.

Do you find working with Early Childhood children rewarding? Why?

Absolutely! Everyday is a new learning experience and being able to be a part of a child’s milestones in life is the best feeling in the world.

What do you hope to share with your students?

A love of learning and to always keep trying even if things are difficult.

Elizabeth with one of her students.

Elizabeth with one of her students.

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Emotional Agility

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When we face times of concern, or issues beyond our control, we feel emotionally drained. For the past many months we have all been exposed to a lack of kindness and humility due to the Presidential election cycle and its media coverage. For me it seemed to be a war between the states, with some friends and family members entirely disagreeing with my opinion of how the election should turn out.

For those of us with young children in our homes, or who work with young children, understand that children are listening even when you think they are not. They also read our non-verbal cues really well and they quickly pick up on our feelings. In all times of stress, upset, or anger, we need to be particularly careful with our interactions around our children. Sometimes we may be animatedly talking on the telephone and not realize that little ears are hearing every word!

If the election resulted with your preferred candidate winning, your family is probably gleeful and celebrating. But what do we tell our children after an election when the results are not what we expected and we feel unhappy and/or depressed?

Dr. Ali Michael, wrote a great article for the Huffington Post, titled, “What Do We Tell The Children?” Her first message is that we tell them that we will protect them. Children who feel safe from harm are emotionally ready for other challenges that the world has to offer. Sometimes we need that kind of emotional agility, too.

Just as we teach children to feel it, show it, label it and watch it go, we need reminders ourselves. Dr. Susan David wrote a book, Emotional Agility, which outlines ways for us to “get unstuck, embrace change and thrive in work and life.” Dr. David draws on extensive research and decades of international consulting. Basically, we can all thrive in an uncertain world by becoming emotionally agile.

As I read the book, I can think of several people I want to share it with – including all of you!

Watch this video to see Dr. David talk about Emotional Agility.

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Encouragement vs. Praise

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When I was raising my children the go-to experts at the time said to accentuate the positive and go heavy on the praise. Of course we wanted our children to know that they could be anything they wanted to be when they grew up. Too much praise didn’t exist. We thought we were demonstrating our 100% support and this enthusiastic, positive praise would not spoil our children.

I did notice that children quickly learned to expect praise. If clapping or exclamation did not follow their attempts to perform daily activities, they became anxious and sort of obnoxious doing it over and over again until an adult noticed. What message did this give to children about their self worth? Dr. Stephen Hughes shared that some children develop narcissistic tendencies when they were exposed to constant praise.*

After learning about Montessori and the difference between praise and encouragement, extrinsic and intrinsic motivation, I had different thoughts about how to be my children’s best advocate. How do we give children credit for a job well done and help support a positive self-esteem if we don’t talk about what they are doing? This is where encouragement comes in.

Encouragement is the action of giving someone support, confidence and hope. Encouragement makes someone more determined, and is the act of making something more appealing. Encouraging statements are specific to the accomplishment to give focus to the exact behavior. You can offer support by noticing the details of children’s efforts and shows that you are paying attention.

For example:

Instead of saying “Awesome!” you can say something specific, such as, “You washed your hands without being told to.” Or “You did it yourself!” or “You listened very carefully.”

Instead of “Your painting is so beautiful, I like it” say “You used a lot of colors in your picture, tell me about it.”

Jane Nelson, of Positive Discipline has these guidelines for those who want to change from praise to encouragement. She suggest keeping these questions in mind.

  • Am I inspiring self-evaluation or dependence on the evaluation of others?
  • Am I being respectful or patronizing?
  • Am I seeing the child’s point of view or only my own?
  • Would I make this comment to a friend?

Giving children external physical rewards like stickers, toys or treats for doing well or meeting expectations only lasts for a few moments. Encouraging children for their efforts and being helpful develops intrinsic motivation. This is a gift that lasts a lifetime. Intrinsically motivated children are able to delay gratification, persist, and helps them to become life long learners.

Research by Carol Dweck, Ph.D. a professor at Columbia University, has now proven what Adler taught years ago. Praise is not good for children. Dweck found that praise can hamper risk taking. Children who were praised for being smart when they accomplished a task chose easier tasks in the future. They didn’t want to risk making mistakes. On the other hand, children who were “encouraged” for their efforts were willing to choose more challenging tasks when given a choice.Dr. Carol Dweck’s research on mindsets is fascinating. Please watch her video about the effects of praise.




* Dr. Stephen Hughes, November 2, 2016, presentation at Resurrection Episcopal School, New York, NY.

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From India to NYC: A Montessori Teacher’s Story

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Isha Joshi came to visit me in my office 2 years ago.  A colleague at the American Montessori Society office, Abby Kelly, told Isha to come and see Twin Parks Montessori Schools and to talk with me. She told me the story of her journey to becoming a Montessori Teacher. Isha’s passion for learning about Montessori and her desire to be a teacher inspired me to support her efforts by hiring her as an intern in our school. I have never regretted my decision to add this remarkable women to our community. Isha is kind, generous and a good friend to all. Read on for more about Isha’s story.

Isha Joshi in her Montessori classroom

What influenced you to become a Montessori teacher?

Being an educator and a parent I had always heard about Montessori Philosophy. Moving to New York gave me an opportunity to learn and experience it. Learning more about Montessori Philosophy, and its methodology and to obtain Montessori Credentials was one of the factors my husband and I had when deciding to move to New York. Montessori helped me rediscover my inner self and it has been a life changing experience as an educator and as a parent.

I moved to New York City with my family in September 2014.  I immediately associated myself with the American Montessori Society. Despite my teaching experience of a few years, I had never seen a Montessori class, this was my first experience in a Montessori classroom as an “observer”. I experienced something special: I stood in a Montessori class looking at the red and the blue rods thinking about the purpose of those vibrant, colorful segments on different sizes of the rods. Then I saw a child polishing a shoe, and then my eyes moved around and I noticed a child carrying the Pink Cubes from one end of the classroom to the other end. I wondered, what was the need for the child to carry the work from one end to another. There were many questions popping up, many unanswered. I wanted to find out how it worked, I wanted to learn more about Montessori philosophy, method, and its approach. I was eager to learn how it could make such a difference to children’s lives, how it could brings joy to learning, what is freedom within limits, what is freedom of choice, why a teacher is called a directress in Montessori, what the teachers role as an observer meant, why would a teacher step back rather than intervene in a child’s learning? That moment and those unanswered questions drove me towards learning more about Montessori.

The fundamental basis of Montessori philosophy is so powerful that it provided a sound satisfaction to my teaching needs. I was able to find in it an approach that strengthens my teaching fundamentals significantly. This has resulted in my growing interest and utmost faith in Montessori teaching methods.

Who were your childhood heroes?

I don’t recall idolizing any particular hero during my childhood. However, I was always inspired and motivated by my parents who have always gone out of their way to support me, to teach me to be truthful, to differentiate between right and wrong, and to be emphatic towards others. They have always been by my side during difficult times. My childhood was also influenced a lot by my teachers, friends and relatives who helped me find my place in a closely knit society that is diverse in culture, traditions and values.

Who do you consider your role models?

I have always emulated those women who have excelled in their lives and have reached to the top of their carrier ladder with their grit, determination and sacrifice. For instance India’s first woman Prime Minister, Mrs. Indira Gandhi, Mother Teresa and the creator of the Montessori Methods of Education –Dr. Maria Montessori. All these women have one thing in common and that is that they have inspired millions of women and men, including myself.

I have also been inspired by my ex- colleague Matti Turri, a Montessori teacher, with whom I did my internship. Her guidance drives me to make efforts to reach my full potential. I have also counted on the support and love of both my husband and brother who have held my hand in all of my actions. I, myself, hope to someday become a role model to someone!


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Isha working with the Broad Stair with her students.

Isha working with the Broad Stair with her students.

Do you find working with Early Childhood children rewarding? Why?

Yes, I do think and feel working with early childhood children is rewarding. I love to be with children as each day brings a new, unexpected moment of inspiration and joy.  It is incredibly inspiring watching them work, learn and grow. It gives me great pleasure observing the child immensely pleased, peaceful and rested after the most strenuous concentration on tasks they choose to independently do.

I enjoy the early childhood phase of development. I learn so much from this age group. I love communicating with this age group, I love to see and understand how their young minds work. This age is an age of little thinkers and philosophers. I celebrate their success and achievements whether they are large or small. I feel that being a Montessori teacher is a mesmerizing, privileged experience to observe and support the inner self of the child and celebrate each moment.

What do you hope to share with your children?

My efforts are towards sharing Maria Montessori’s vision of a peaceful world by providing the opportunity to the children to experience and practice respect for humanity. Children have to be prepared to serve their community and learn to contribute to a larger common good. I hope to support the child’s natural curiosity, the inner thirst of the child who is passionate about the world around him. Love, compassion and passion are important in facilitating the child’s learning and development process.

Each child is unique, they have different inner sensibilities and potential. I hope to fulfill the  individual needs of each child by paying attention to their sensitivities, capabilities and by providing them with the prepared environment according to their specific needs.

Anything else that you would like to share?

I am a passionate baby Montessorian. I was born in India, in a small town called Dehradun near the Himalayan foothills. I traveled around the globe from one part to another after every few years due to my husband’s profession, a serving Diplomat who is presently working with the United Nations here in New York. I am glad to be a part of the Montessori world where I can imbibe and spread Maria Montessori’s philosophy and methodology wherever I go.





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Community Values and Relationships

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Our Montessori school culture is the wide-angle view of our shared mission, values, attitudes and behaviors. Relationships grow out of how we treat one another and our traditions and activities that reflect collaboration and collegiality. It can also be felt in the natural order of things and the unwritten set of rules that adults and children live by. The feel of our culture is so palpable that most visitors experience it immediately when entering our schools. Twin Parks Montessori Schools’ culture is where the journey of learning begins.

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Our faculty and staff sharing values together

Our faculty and staff sharing values together

There are many commonalities within the intimate community of our schools:  children are precious beings in our care; family time is important and protected; excellent education is vital; creativity, independence and intrinsic motivation are important life skills; and, we rely on one another to help our children experience success. The location of our schools in New York City also provides a globally diverse experience for our community.

Twin Parks’ faculty and staff communicate their shared values and build relationships. First, we are all responsible for our students’ learning. Our conversations with each other are positive and collaborative in support of serving our students and families. We are partners with parents regarding the growth and development of our students. We strive for cordial, collegial and encouraging communication with parents. Our weekly “peeks” at the activities in the classrooms, our whole school newsletters, blog, emails, socials, and coffee chats all helpto bring a greater level of understanding to our parents of what we do at school.

We also communicate our values to our students. Children learn how to take care of their specially prepared classrooms. They become keepers of their environments, classroom pets and plants. Teachers model the relationship behaviors that they know result in students’ successful communication with each other by using their words. Students learn how to take care of one another and the classroom community as a whole. Students know they belong and are valued as members of the community.

Our school culture is demonstrated by the way we make decisions. Ultimately, I make the final determinations. However, every employee has the opportunity to share his/her voice in making these decisions. Faculty meetings come alive with brainstorming and sharing of experiences – all of which help with thinking before deciding. Teachers have opportunities to interact around their craft and improve their teaching in a collaborative atmosphere.  We all work together to build a better school.  In addition, Parents’ Voice, a group of parents with representation from each classroom, meets with me monthly to explore ways to enrich our students’ and families’ experiences at Twin Parks Montessori Schools.

Perhaps the greatest indicator of our school culture is our teachers’ attitudes towards their work and their continuous efforts toward improvement. Research has shown that teachers have greater efficacy when they are provided with high quality professional development. We value current research about children and adult growth and development and strive to bring quality presentations to our school.

This first decade of life is the time when children are developing their personalities and moral compasses.  At no other time is overall growth so pronounced and rapidly changing.  Perhaps the most influential teachers are those that a child experiences during his/her first 10 years. These first teachers assist the child and his/her family as they negotiate their physical, behavioral, cognitive and social development. Your decision to enroll at one of Twin Parks Montessori Schools enables your child to experience and excel in an environment tailored to his/her developmental needs with materials that will provide comfort and challenges.

This past year, each teacher reflected on what s/he values.  For many, family rose to the top of the list. As is true for so many of you, family is considered first when making decisions.  Honesty, trust, integrity, love and personal growth were high on the list. Each year we reflect on our personal experiences and best practices as they are demonstrated through our work with our students. And so our cycle of discovery, strategic planning, and renewal that reinforces our shared purpose and values, and strengthens our school community, begins again!

May our love, values and community shine through and allow students’ physical, social and academic development thrive! Twin Parks Montessori Schools are places where the journey of learning begins!


Teachers enjoying their time together

Teachers enjoying their time together

Let’s put our minds together and see what life we can make for our children.

~Chief Sitting Bull~

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Men in Montessori: A Teachers’ Story

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Everyone has a story about how they evolved in their career path and purpose in life. Over the next month, I will share some of Twin Parks Montessori School’s teachers’ stories about their journey to becoming a Montessori teacher. For the first in the series, I invited Jeff Frank, who has been working with us for 9 years to present his perspective of men in Montessori. Enjoy!

Jeff Frank and his family.

Jeff Frank and his family.

What influenced you to become a Montessori teacher?

For years I had volunteered my time supporting single parent friends, through a non-parent coop. I also volunteered my time as an anatomy teacher in a loosely run “free school.” I have always enjoyed working with kids. During the same time I was teaching adult anatomy classes as well as teaching in a massage school. I had a growing desire to change my career. Once my first son, Milo, was born this desire grew stronger. When he was two years old, I began researching Waldorf school and spending time getting to know different pedagogies. I began studying Waldorf education with a series of lectures. Despite my appreciation for their approach to early childhood education, I realized it was not a good fit for me as a teacher. I began reading The Montessori Method by Maria Montessori which spoke about children in a way that I had never considered. The degree of respect and potential she saw in children was starkly contrasted by the conditions in which children were being exposed to. She referred to children in desks, as butterflies pinned behind glass. As a community activist and a firm believer in progressive education I began to see working with children as more than a career. I relate my work in the classroom to the work I did as an activist defending old growth forests. 

Who were your childhood heroes?

I am not sure I ever had heroes. I found inspiration in music, particularly punk rock music from a very early age. Ironically, the bands I loved would scoff at the idea of being anyone’s hero. However, I learned that change is possible and it is up to me to do my part. I discovered community, do it yourself politics, and a role model for being a male that is different than the dominant gender role men are often expected to follow.

Who do you consider your role models?

I can identify three major role models and key women who have impacted my life beyond my mother and my wife. As a teenager, Emma Goldman, embodied the revolutionary spirit that helped give meaning and purpose to me, when my high school failed to inspire me. I found hope in fighting for change, in believing in people and community. In my twenties I discovered Ida Rolf, a pioneer in the understanding of how our bodies are organized in relationship to gravity. More so, how our emotions and belief systems shape the way we present ourselves to the world. She too, believed in change. However, she explored change from within the body both physical and emotional. She believed awareness proceeds transformation. Lastly, in my thirties, I discovered Maria Montessori, who has taught me how to put all of my hope, anger, frustration, and love into my work. She taught me that work is something we do for ourselves, not for others. She also provided a medium to express all of that and support children in their process of exploring and making sense out of the world.

Do you find working in Early Childhood education rewarding? Why?

I find working with children incredibly rewarding. As a parent I see how important teachers are to my children. I see the power teachers have to cultivate wonder, confidence, compassion, empathy, inquiry, love and so much more. I believe our community both local and global, needs all of these things and so much more. I aspire to offer children all of these things in a fun way that is mutually beneficial to me as well as the children.

What do you hope to share with your students?

A playful approach to learning. I hope to model a way of living that demonstrates the joy of learning and being part of a community. I hope to inspire questions, ideas, and a belief that our potential is limitless.

Anything else you would like to share?

I know many of my students will never remember me, but I hope the effect I have on their lives as well as their families is creating more peace and creativity in the world. I also hope it’s upping the ante on the way men interact with children.

Jeff Frank and his family.

Jeff Frank and his family.

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How do you keep a Montessori schedule at home?

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One of the key and most difficult components of a schedule is consistency. After the adults finish their workday and come home, their homework begins. Chores like shopping, cooking, bedtime and preparing for the next day are what keep parents up late at night. We all need nourishment and plenty of rest to help us live full lives. Children need these things too. Often the difficulty comes in when there is not enough time between everyone returning home and going to bed. What I hear mostly from parents are two things: we get home so late but still want to spend time with our children so we keep them up later at night, then our children cannot fall asleep or wake up on time in the morning; or, because our children take naps at school, they are not tired and don’t fall asleep until long past our bedtime.

The first thing to do is establish a bedtime for your children and backtrack from there. Our sleep coach, Christina Gantcher*, tells us that young children do need naps during the day. Additionally, the time they go to bed at night should not be more than five (5) hours from the time they wake from their afternoon nap.

The following chart provides a guide for the appropriate sleep time per age.

Age          Night Sleep (hrs.)      Daytime Sleep (hrs.)   Total (hrs.)

3 months                10                              5 (3 naps)                  15

12 months             11.25                       2.5 (2 naps)                 13.75

18 months             11.25                       2.25 (1 nap)                 13.5

2 years                     11                              2 hours                       13

3 years                     10.5                          1.5                               12

4 years                     10.5                          1                                   11.5

*Christina will conduct two Twin Parks Parent Sleep Workshops: October 6, 9:00 a.m. at Central Park campus and November 18 at 9:00 a.m. at Park West Montessori School

If you start with the end goal in mind, 7:30 p.m. bedtime, you can back up everything you need to do in the hours you are home to bedtime. If you get home at 5:30, that gives your family 2 hours to eat, clean, and prepare for bed. The preparation for the next day including packing lunches can happen after the children are in bed.

Dinner together is a time to develop social skills

A bedtime routine should be the same every evening. Dinner, wash up, brush teeth, read books and snuggle, lights out. Children do best when they can predict what comes next in their day. If you usually have time to read 3 books, then set the limit to 3 and stick with it. Your child can choose the 3 books from a group of acceptable books that you make available. This is also a great time for your older child to practice reading skills with you or siblings.



Reading before bed keeps bonds strong

Reading before bed keeps bonds strong

Positive family preparing lunch together

Children feel important and add value when preparing meals together with parents


Many organized parents do the following with their children:

• cook meals ahead on the weekend, prepare cut up vegetables for dinners and have plenty of fresh fruit on hand

• include children in the selection of clothing the night before, making sure all choices are good ones (sandals and shorts are not available in winter)

• pack lunches the night before or choose the catered school lunch option

• wake up before children in the morning, shower, dress and have coffee before breakfast with family

• pack backpacks with your child the night before

• turn off all electronics an hour before bedtime

Change and organization are hard. Just chose one item that you want to change and slowly move towards it. It takes about 2 weeks for a change to become part of a routine. Don’t give up. The reward is manageable evenings and more sleep for you!




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